Love begins very egoistic. First you have to be sure and confident of yourself. You have to be happy just being with yourself.
If this it not the case than very easily you may depend on the other person in that relationship to provide you with these feelings. Of course you can also grow into this if the other person is showing you that you alone are strong enough. But for that you need a person that is aware of this problem and not afraid of you being independent.
So, why having a relationship if being with yourself should be enough?
Well, to put it mathematically, if you alone have the happiness of 1 and your partner also. Then in a relationship you get 1+1=2 for each of the partners. Sharing and feeling good about it, is in the human nature. We are emphatic beings so we feel the happiness of the other one as if something was given to us.
Well, to put it mathematically, if you alone have the happiness of 1 and your partner also. Then in a relationship you get 1+1=2 for each of the partners. Sharing and feeling good about it, is in the human nature. We are emphatic beings so we feel the happiness of the other one as if something was given to us.
Some may state that we only give for egoistic reasons in order to feel good. But I am not so sure, because as explained above, in my opinion this is our nature. Also in a relationship it is more sharing experiences than goods that matter.
In that regard I recently read an interesting posting on a wallpaper "Love is not for the lazy ones".
That is the only important thing one has to keep in mind while being in a relationship. You have to constantly trying to understand your partner, share your experiences and thoughts with him and work out differences. If you don't do this than the same things happen if you emotionally detach yourself from your job: On the long run you will take another one.